By Desi360 @ www.desibrunch.com

One of Ameriki friend sued to absolve himself of any obligation to pay child support for an unplanned pregnancy carried through to term by his former girlfriend, he didn’t use a condom, he alleges that this was because his girlfriend was  infertile and using birth control.  This did not strike him as unusual at the time, until he was court-ordered to pay $500/month to support the end result of their unprotected sex.  Thanks to law ….

I’ll note, in the first place, this will be harsh about all the excitement about men’s rights in the reproductive arena, or lack thereof, does beg comment.

First, I’ll stack my coins  on one point: my right to Marriage or Wife  is not, cannot, should not be compared, in cheap buzzword Abortion …then why do involved in sex with out plan B for birth control

No one can choose to abandon a child they willingly made, financially or physically; that ain’t right. 

Like the choice to abstain from sex if you were so doggedly committed to remaining childless, or to take all the possible precautions available to you.

You decided, instead, that a verbal conversation with a non-serious mate was sufficient proof that your sperm would, in no way, produce a live one.  In a court of law, that’s kind of a funny way of starting a men’s rights movement.

To suggest that all that men have in the child-rearing (or birthing) game are responsibilities..its false why do we think of sex if you wanna run away from your responsibilities

Usually, Women are on  the receiving end, because men have always had a socially-mandated right to walk away from their babies for a monthly fee.  Women walking away are shuffled into dark corners, an embarrassment – even giving a child up for adoption is perceived, culturally speaking, as a kind of abomination of nature.

I will say, in terms of men’s rights, that I find those cultural perceptions baffling.  Parenthood is a choice, a contract, and a responsibility – for men and for women.  The Globe points out the distinction, the reason it’s easy to oversimplify a man’s role in reproduction as nonexistent:

The idea that men have certain rights is hardly controversial. ‘’Clearly,” he says, ‘’a man has reproductive rights. He can’t be forced to reproduce. He can’t be sterilized.” But those rights are limited, and sharply, by the fact that most of the reproductive process takes place in a woman’s body. Men Just seed it …..Women toil to make it grow ..!! Any Takers

The right to abort, or the right to not abort an unplanned baby, belong to a woman for exactly those reasons.  A man can’t have the kind of legal veto right some commenters  because it’s simply not tenable or constitutional.

Once slavery was abolished and women could own property (rather than be legally treated as property), it was pretty clear that even marriage didn’t give men the right to the province of their wives’ bodies.

Of course, that’s easy for me to say; I had a good education, a fairly liberal upbringing and attended the kind of schools that either encouraged or at least did not dissuade my passionate feminism.

That’s because I was a baby who was wanted, well-provided-for.  The real crux of this issue, sometimes, has to do with sex education – which is being not co-opted in our Incredible India  by the imperatives of faith.

Meaning, the goal of a lot of sex ed isn’t education at all, but scaring people into abstinence – a time-honored method that hasn’t worked since Adam and Eve.

Do you see what I see?  I see a problem overwhelmingly, sadly, perpetually the plight of the poor, like so many of this country’s (and any country’s) social ills.  If we’re worried about rights and about parenthood in general, and if we want to put men and women on equal footing, we should realize that the economically disadvantaged disproportionately suffer the problems we bitch about in mighty tones—and probably don’t share our politicized view of how to solve the problem.

Finally, recall that some people in this society approach parenthood as a gift, a pleasure, something to be well-planned and sought after—perhaps even battled for. A real live breathing baby.  At that point, it’s nine months too late to play hooky.